R’ Schechter,* a yungerman, was offered the zechus to drive the Rosh Yeshiva of BMG, Rav Yerucham Olshin, somewhere that he needed to go. He really, really wanted to do it, but his wife needed his help, and he didn’t know what to do. He called up his Rav, who said that Shalom Bayis comes first. He said that because he follows a Life with Bitachon, instead of being mad at his wife, he asked himself why he wants to do it so badly. If the Rav told me I should stay home, then that’s what Hashem wants. Why would I want to drive the Rav? It must be because I love kavod! So I would be able to say that I drove him around! All kavod! I’m not serving Hashem; I’m serving myself! By thinking these thoughts, he didn’t get upset!
